"Not all of us live with a rag in our hand": Cuban woman stands up to criticism about her home

A Cuban creator on TikTok defends her home against criticism, promoting authenticity and rejecting the pressure to portray perfection on social media. Her message resonates with real women.


A Cuban content creator went viral on TikTok after responding assertively yet respectfully to a user who criticized the state of her home. In her video, she firmly expressed the importance of showcasing a real and authentic life on social media, away from the perfection standards often imposed on platforms like TikTok.

The subtle criticism, made by another user whom the creator labeled as "doña perfecta," suggested that she was a disorganized or unclean person. Maintaining her composure, the Cuban responded as follows:

"And here we have another perfect lady who, according to her, doesn't keep her house like I do, and she’s subtly implying that I'm dirty. I will always respond with respect and aim to leave a positive message. Not because I'm bothered by the comment, not at all. I don’t care what you think of me and my home. Clearly, aside from having time on TikTok to comment on things like this, you might have time to be cleaning your house 24/7 with a cloth. That’s not my situation, and it’s not the case for many women who enjoy my content."

The creator went on to explain that those who truly follow her know she has many responsibilities and that, despite this, she is a tidy and organized person. She emphasized her frustration with the trend of portraying an unrealistic perfection on social media

"I'm tired, fed up with seeing so much perfection on social media. I always show you my day-to-day life as it is, the reality. I don't want to present perfection because my life isn't like that. That's all, I'm leaving it with you, Dorothy."

This type of response has resonated with many women who feel the pressure to present a flawless life on social media. The content creator emphasized that her goal is to share a genuine version of her everyday life, without masks or fictional perfection.

Her stance in favor of authenticity has been praised by hundreds of users who appreciate seeing more genuine content in a digital world filled with appearances. Some notable comments included:

"As many nationalities have said without offense... we Cuban women are the best at cleaning."

"Oh, what a bold woman; with how hard people work in this country, there's hardly any time to even look in the mirror, for goodness' sake!"

"I love your response. You’re absolutely right. The thing is, people are drawn to dishonesty."

"When we become mothers, time never seems to be enough. You are very organized and a role model for many. You are doing an excellent job."

"I don't see any mess; it's simply a house being lived in. Don't engage with the negative comments. Best regards!"

Frequently Asked Questions About Authenticity and Social Pressure on Social Media

Why is it important to portray a real life on social media?

Showing real life on social media is important to combat the unrealistic standards of perfection that are often imposed on these platforms. Many users, like the Cuban content creator who went viral, emphasize the need to be authentic and genuine, sharing their daily lives as they truly are, without filters or facades. This helps alleviate the pressure on other users who may feel inadequate when comparing themselves to seemingly perfect lives.

How has the public reacted to the authenticity stance on social media?

The stance of authenticity on social media has been applauded by many users who appreciate more genuine and less fictional content. Comments on posts commend the courage and honesty of those who share their lives without pretensions, and many feel a connection to the message of living authentically, free from the pressure to project an unrealistic perfection.

What impact does the pressure of perfection on social media have on users?

The pressure for perfection on social media can create anxiety and feelings of inadequacy in users who feel they must meet unattainable standards. This pressure can lead to constant comparisons and the desire to edit or filter reality to fit what is deemed "acceptable" or "desirable," impacting the self-esteem and self-perception of many individuals.

What is the relationship between authenticity on social media and women's empowerment?

The relationship between authenticity on social media and female empowerment lies in freeing women from unrealistic beauty standards and promoting self-acceptance. By sharing their lives as they truly are, without trying to conform to ideals of perfection, women can inspire each other, enhance their self-esteem, and challenge the norms that dictate how they should look or behave, fostering a more inclusive and realistic digital environment.

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Izabela Pecherska

Editor at CiberCuba. Graduated in Journalism from Rey Juan Carlos University in Madrid, Spain. Former editor at El Mundo and PlayGround.