A Cuban in the United States sparked a wave of comments on TikTok after posting a video in which she criticizes the habit of some compatriots to make family conflicts public on social media. In her message, sent from Nashville, she urged Cubans to reflect on the importance of family and not to expose their personal differences for "likes" or reactions online.
In his speech, he said in a direct tone: "Cuban, you who brought your brother, your uncle, your nephew, and if they turned out to be a disappointment, please stop commenting on family issues on social media. No one on social media is going to solve that problem for you."
He lamented that this practice has become common among some migrants and compared it to situations from the past in Cuba: “We are back in those days in Cuba when they started distributing Pandas, when families were killing each other, parents with children, cousins with everyone over a Panda television.”
He stated that in the United States, many times the only thing one has is their closest loved ones, and warned: “In this country, you never know how long you will be here, you never know how long you will be on this earth. Value your family, come together, take care of each other, fight.” He emphasized that family problems are private and should be resolved personally: “Please, wish for a respected one with a little respect,” he concluded.
The video has sparked hundreds of reactions, mostly in favor. "Someone really had to say it," "I’m Cuban and I feel the same way," "Well said, it’s sad to see those posts," were some of the many positive comments.
Several people emphasized that family, with its virtues and flaws, deserves respect: “Family is not chosen, and you don’t speak ill of family,” commented one user. Another added, “I was raised to believe that dirty laundry is washed at home. My blood, good or bad, is still my blood.” A man expressed, “When I see someone speaking poorly of their own family, I just think: God deliver me from that type of person.”
There were also messages that approached the phenomenon from another perspective, pointing out that "some do it to monetize" or to "warn others and open their eyes," although these comments were less frequent. Nonetheless, the majority agreed that "respect for family is the last thing that should be lost" and that "no one is going to solve your problems; social media doesn't resolve anything."
In another video posted on her account, Yanelis shared part of her legal situation. She revealed that she is under the I220-A immigration process and has her second hearing scheduled for next July 11. She explained that she has had to hire a lawyer and faces significant uncertainty due to the constant changes in U.S. immigration policy.
“There is no life, there is no life with the issue of immigrants. Every day is something different. If you listen to the lawyers, you’ll drive yourself crazy,” he expressed. Despite everything, he remains optimistic and faithful: “Since I arrived in this country, I have been working. God’s timing is perfect. We are hoping for a miracle.”
She requested the approval of "parole in place" for those like her who arrived with the hope of stabilizing their situation in the United States: “We come to work, not to steal or to live off others. Only God is in control of what may happen.”
Frequently Asked Questions about Cuban Emigration and Family Conflicts
Why do some Cubans in the United States criticize the exposure of family problems on social media?
Some Cubans in the United States criticize the exposure of family issues on social media because they feel these matters should be resolved privately and not through "likes" or reactions. Furthermore, they believe that social media is not the appropriate place to resolve family conflicts, as it does not provide effective solutions.
What are the main reasons for family conflicts between Cubans who have emigrated and their relatives on the island?
Family conflicts primarily arise when emigrants feel that their efforts are not appreciated and that their relatives in Cuba have unrealistic expectations about life abroad. The lack of reciprocity and the perception that emigrants are "automated teller machines" contribute to these tensions.
How does emigration affect family dynamics among Cubans in the United States and in Cuba?
Emigration affects family dynamics by introducing economic and emotional pressures in relationships. Emigrants must balance their own adaptation challenges with the demands and expectations of their family members in Cuba, which can lead to misunderstandings and resentments.
What do Cubans think about sending aid to their relatives on the island?
The opinion on sending aid to the island is divided. Many Cubans prioritize the well-being of their family members over political debates, believing that helping is a responsibility and an act of love. Others, however, think that sending money may indirectly support the Cuban regime.
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