Cuban psychologist Carelis Conde has shared a profound reflection on TikTok regarding what many immigrant mothers experience when they have to leave their children behind in search of a better future. With a direct and honest message, she articulated one of the greatest pains faced by thousands of women.
"I am an immigrant mother, and the hardest decision I ever made was to leave my child behind. While I must admit that I don’t care about what people say, every time I hear someone say, 'But you left your child' or 'Mothers should never leave their children behind,' it feels like my conscience is punishing me. I don’t sleep well; I try to focus on working to bring him with me, ensuring he lacks for nothing in the meantime, but it hurts so much." From these words, which resonate with the feelings of many mothers, Carelis invites us to look beyond the comments or criticisms and connect with what truly matters: the love and sacrifice for a better future. Her message serves as a kind of guide to cope with such a difficult situation:
"As mothers, we sometimes make decisions that come with a high cost, but we do so because we also look to the future... Call your child, remind him every day how important he is to you, talk about the things that matter to him, listen to him, show him your efforts, and don’t hide the challenges you’re facing. Don’t make promises; let time sort out what you cannot control. Keep your mind focused, filter out the comments, remember why you made those choices and why you’re there. Every day, look at a picture of your child and use it as the key that starts the engine to keep moving forward until you achieve your goals."
The video has sparked a wave of reactions, with hundreds of people resonating with its message. Many mothers and fathers have shared their own experiences and expressed gratitude to Carelis for giving voice to a pain that is often left unspoken.
"We are many; let's have faith in God, everything will be alright," commented one user. Another added, "It hurts a lot. Only mothers who have gone through this process know how sad it is to be away from a child." In the comments, there are also testimonies from mothers who are still fighting to reunite with their children: "I hope that soon, the mothers who had to leave our children can bring them so we will never be separated again."
Other accounts illustrate the complexity of these decisions: "I brought one and left one; my heart is torn in two"; "Never has a statement been more true, this pain is only understood by those who live it"; "I don't judge you; I brought my daughter, and she has truly suffered with me"; "I've been without my daughter for years, but she always knew I did it out of love"; "A mother's sacrifice for a child knows no limits, and no one has the right to judge us"; "Thank you for speaking for all of us, your words give us strength."
Carelis Conde's words have created a space where mothers and fathers can share their pain and, above all, their hope. The message that resonates in all the comments is the same: the love for a child can transcend any distance and provide the strength needed to keep going.
His final reflection is also a promise to all those mothers who continue to fight today: "Because yes, you will succeed. Remember that only those who listen to those who have never fought a battle truly fail."
Frequently Asked Questions About the Sacrifice of Cuban Immigrant Mothers
Why do Cuban immigrant mothers decide to leave their children in Cuba?
Cuban immigrant mothers often leave their children in Cuba to seek a better future for them. The economic and social crisis in Cuba forces many to emigrate in order to send resources from abroad, thereby ensuring the well-being of their children despite the painful separation.
What emotional impact does separation have on Cuban immigrant mothers and their children?
Separation can evoke feelings of abandonment in children and guilt in mothers. Although the primary reason for emigration is family well-being, the physical distance between mothers and children can inflict significant emotional pain on both sides.
How do social networks support Cuban immigrant mothers?
Social media allows Cuban immigrant mothers to stay connected with their families and communities in Cuba. It serves as a crucial tool for sharing experiences, finding emotional support, and alleviating the sense of isolation that can arise from family separation.
What is the reaction of the Cuban community and immigrants to the sacrifices made by mothers who emigrate?
The Cuban community expresses both support and criticism towards mothers who emigrate. Many acknowledge the sacrifice and bravery of these mothers, while others highlight the emotional consequences of separation. Nevertheless, this topic sparks a profound debate about the difficult decisions these families face.
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